Explore the kinky side to you, that you never knew existed

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Explore the kinky side to you, that you never knew existed 

Thoughts: So what does it feel like to be in your…sexual dominance? Perhaps you have felt a yearning to engage in a sex experience that is a little rougher, more passionate, or more humiliating but have felt a reluctance to bring that dynamic into your relationship, or you do, but it’s just not the time to talk about it. It’s all right to want to do something new once in a while, to pay attention to your inner urges, but it doesn’t always work out—or in—in the bedroom. 

Even if you manage to persuade your partner to participate in the play, it’s no certainty they’ll be able to play the role as you want them to. After all, that’s not necessarily the quality you look for in a relationship—you chose them because of how kind they are, not how well they can demean you.

Having said that, it doesn’t mean that they can’t play along and build up an appetite for it, and this article explores some of the ways you can fulfill your fantasies in a way that works for both of you.

With a little time, practice, and a lighthearted attitude, you can be squirming your way to a dirtier sex life, and who doesn’t want a bit of that?”

First, let's look at some of the most popular kinks out there and share some tips on how you can get involved.

You have likely heard of 50 Shades of Grey, the book that popularized rough and dominant sex, and hot encounters in a hidden sexual chamber. After it became a bestseller, there was an influx of women openly saying they had always fantasized about being on the receiving end of a dark encounter, but 

What does this mean?

Well, let’s be clear that rough doesn’t mean violence. It means consensual and controlled aggression for play. And there is no physical harm to people, nor feeling of insecurity during or after.

Do you like being controlled?

Handcuffs being tied up, or even gagged and chained are all popular kinks in BDSM. For the most part, BDSM boils down to acts of dominance and submission between people who trust each other. This isn’t just about being unable to move, it’s about the feeling of surrender, both between yourself and the person you are entrusting.

It's also about feeling desired by the person in control, so much so that they will use force to have their way with you. It turns out there is an evolutionary foundation as to why you enjoy rough sex, but only when you feel a degree of control or voluntary loss of it.

There is an entire art dedicated to rope tying as a form of sexual control, and it’s called Shibari. Shibari lets partners use a rope to seduce one another with creative tying methods. It’s not rushed; it's a drawn-out process intended to arouse the person giving up control. The rope, which is treated to make it softer than normal rope, is pulled up against you while it travels to the part of your body that will be bound.

Several binding techniques leave the person tied in a variety of positions, revealing and exposing different body parts. You could be kneeling, with your hands and feet bound behind your back, leaving your front side open and exposed to touch, tickling, or even painful treatment (with consent), or you could be suspended from the ceiling, everything facing down.

Whatever the case, it looks and feels hot. One of the sexiest parts is the process of being untied because that is when there is the most opportunity for friction from the rope as the rope master seductively frees you.

Controlled aggression and pain

There’s no denying we love a good slap on the behind, but what if we added a little more spank to the spanking? What’s going on here is that a small amount of pain and discomfort is introduced into the sexual experience, usually disguised as punishment for being naughty. Can you see how it flows back to control and surrender? Spanking with a cane or flog can feel sexy, especially if you don’t know where and when it will happen—of course, that means you’re blindfolded too. Did you know that your body can take 50% more pain when you’re aroused because of the endorphins? That’s why they say there is a fine line between pleasure and pain. The feeling of being spanked can linger a bit after your master is finished, thus affording you a little more time to be pleasured. It’s the combination of the two contrasting feelings that can really get your juices flowing. 

There are those who like to take clamping a bit further, which is the application of peg-like devices on various sensitive parts of the body, including nipples, the clitoris, or the testicles, among others (really, they can be placed anywhere). It’s particularly entertaining if you happen to be tied up and can’t get out or complain without being punished some more. Can you spot the theme here? 

Gagging and choking are also a really popular way to enjoy controlled aggression and dominance. It ties in quite nicely with those that have a fantasy of (consensual) forced sex.

Experience Virtually to See if You Like It.

While BDSM is fun, it can be intimidating for the beginner. Fortunately, you can sample the experience with VR porn without venturing too far beyond your comfort zone. Fortunately, you can enjoy this with a partner too, as one of you can don the headset while the other takes the naughties. It takes the focus off your day one performances so you can focus on the parts of the show that feel natural to you. 

So, there you have it, an intro into a new life of kink, so what are you waiting for?